I saw a quote earlier today which said "If I was meant to be controlled, I would have been born with a remote control". This struck a chord with me. Sadly, it probably strikes a chord with many people.
No one has the right to control another person. Support is wonderful. Guidance can be helpful. Advice too, can provide great benefits. Compromise in relationships is vital and relationship decisions should be shared. Decisions that appertain to an individual person, should be made by that person.
Each individual should have their hands on the driving wheel of their life. No other person has the right to decide:
Who you see
Where you go
How long you stay
What clothes you wear
How much make-up you wear
Whether you wear make-up
What music you listen to
Who you talk to
How much money you spend
How much money you save
And so on.....
These decisions, and decisions like them are decided by the individual. There are cases where another person may have to act on your behalf, for example in illness or where your abilities are impaired through disability. However, even in these cases, each person should have as much decision making responsibility as possible with regards to their own life.
If you feel that you are being controlled, do not let this continue. Take your power back. Control is a form of domestic abuse. And it is never okay.
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