Responsibility

Victims of domestic abuse can be female or male.  Moreover, children, can be victims of abuse both in terms of direct abuse, which is referred to as child abuse and when the children witness the domestic abuse of their carers.  It is absolutely vital to remember that in every case of domestic abuse, the victim is NEVER at fault.

Male victims may feel emasculated.  They may feel that they cannot be victim of abuse because it shouldn't happen to men. Yet, sadly it can.  Anyone can become a victim of domestic abuse.  It doesn't happen to certain types of people.  It doesn't happen to people with certain backgrounds.  

Perpetrators of abuse will often to seek to blame their victims.  In fact they will often seek to blame anyone and anything rather than accept responsibility for their own actions.  Although domestic abuse can be two-way, in other words it is possible for both sides of a relationship to be abusive.  In every case victims are not at fault.  It is always the responsibility of the perpetrator.

It is important for everyone that has experienced domestic abuse to understand that they need not feel guilt.  Perpetrators will often do everything they can to absolve themselves of responsibility.  This type of manipulation can make a victim question whether they caused the abuse.  Furthermore, the victim may be manipulated to make excuses for the perpetrator.   It is not possible to cause domestic abuse.  There is no excuse.  The perpetrator, without exception, is responsible.

More generally, in life, we are all responsibilities for own actions.  Doubtless life can throw terrible provocation at us but never-the-less we each choose how we behave. The responsibility for whatever behaviour we exhibit lies within ourselves not with another person, object or circumstance.

Yours,


The Renegade Glitter Fairy

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